Words from My Sister – Living, Loving and Laughing Through Cancer
I was considered the writer in the family. Whether writing books or addressing an audience of soccer moms or CEOs, words seemed to flow effortlessly from my heart.
Many of my customers confessed they’d hang onto my newsletters for months, insisting their husbands and kids read them too. Never at a loss for inspiration or sharing a lesson learned, I had built a loyal following long before “Facebook” or “blog” were even part of our vocabulary.
My Sister’s Inspiring Words
Little did we know that my sister Darlene had words inside her that would one day inspire not only friends and family, but strangers throughout the country who’d heard about her strength and courage. She simply needed a platform to express herself.
For more than 30 years, Darlene battled congestive heart failure and cancer. When her weary body no longer responded to treatment, her spirit and mind gained even more clarity and perspective.
Knowing her days on earth were limited, she started a CaringBridge Site to let caring friends and family receive health updates. What many of us gained from her entries was so much more.
Look For Silver Linings
Using her CaringBridge Journal, she challenged us all to look for the silver lining, no matter how challenging our circumstances. One entry – filled with surprise, whimsy and brutal honesty – would inspire laughter; the next one, tears. Darlene’s words became a textbook on how to live and love. And hundreds of readers became loyal followers.
Here’s an example:
“One day, I was sitting on my porch enjoying a beautiful Minnesota summer evening when I decided to comb my hair. The chemo was really beginning to take effect and I noticed my hair was falling out in major clumps. I began to feel sorry for myself and was near tears of self-pity when I noticed a bird picking up my hair and using it to build her nest. Isn’t that beautiful?”
“I was sitting around the campfire when I noticed everyone but me was becoming increasingly annoyed with mosquitoes biting them. How come the mosqitoes weren’t biting me? I know. The chemo is so toxic, even the mosquitoes don’t want my blood! Thank God each time a mosquito tries to bite you!”
Eventually, we documented Darlene’s CaringBridge entries in a booklet called “The Potholes of My Life–Living, Loving and Laughing Through Cancer.” Now my sister is published too.
Our family will always be grateful to CaringBridge for giving Darlene a platform to receive love and to be loved. In the process she became the true writer and inspirer in the family. I’ll take a back seat to my sister any day.
Where Do You See Silver Linings?
We’re always looking for them too, so sharing yours might help us find some new ones.