Comments on: How does a martyr ask for help? She doesn’t. http://blog.caringbridge.org/how-does-a-martyr-ask-for-help-she-doesnt/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-does-a-martyr-ask-for-help-she-doesnt Sun, 19 May 2013 19:44:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Saulo http://blog.caringbridge.org/how-does-a-martyr-ask-for-help-she-doesnt/#comment-759 Saulo Tue, 15 Jan 2013 00:06:43 +0000 http://blog.devsvd.cbeagan.org/?p=79#comment-759 LillieDecember 9, 2009I fit. I was going to say I never cared for a child with special needs but I guess I did, I risaed my stepdaughter from age 6 to 18 who was bipolar and now that I think about it, she required a ton of attention. Although she could take care of herself, life was a constant battle. With my dad, who was Parkinsons and Dementia, he had to be watched around the clock. So, I’m gonna say I think it evens out. I don’t think one requires more than the other, it just depends on the situation.

]]> By: Patricia Schneider http://blog.caringbridge.org/how-does-a-martyr-ask-for-help-she-doesnt/#comment-64 Patricia Schneider Tue, 13 Nov 2012 15:57:41 +0000 http://blog.devsvd.cbeagan.org/?p=79#comment-64 I just read Melissa Bear’s article, ‘How does a martyr ask for help? She doesn’t.’ Oh, could I relate to what she wrote! When my hubby & I were caring for both our Moms years ago, I, too, felt like a ‘martyr.’ Unfortunately, most family members lived in other states, so they couldn’t help on hand. But, all DID turn out surprisingly well.
May the Good Lord bless all Caregivers!

]]> By: Sally Daly http://blog.caringbridge.org/how-does-a-martyr-ask-for-help-she-doesnt/#comment-19 Sally Daly Tue, 30 Oct 2012 14:58:29 +0000 http://blog.devsvd.cbeagan.org/?p=79#comment-19 My husband battled a brain tumor when he was twenty two. He did chemo and radiation the next year, and I was right along side him for all of it. I became a caregiver, but I never would have labeled myself as such.

This fall, when unbeknownst to us his tumor returned, I slipped into being a serious caregiver. Again, I didn’t even notice. This was just the way things were. I took care of him and me without breaking a sweat.

When I became his widow this spring, everything changed. All of a sudden, I couldn’t focus long enough to take care of me. When you’re in a situation like that, everyone becomes your caregiver. I think I may not have eaten had my dad not put dinner on the table. I would have gone without shampoo had my friends not taken me shopping.

When you can’t think of ANYTHING, it is amazing to have those miracle people in your life that will just help you without being asked, and without looking for anything in return.

]]> By: Karin Gelschus http://blog.caringbridge.org/how-does-a-martyr-ask-for-help-she-doesnt/#comment-17 Karin Gelschus Wed, 24 Oct 2012 19:28:08 +0000 http://blog.devsvd.cbeagan.org/?p=79#comment-17 I was on the other end of the caregiving experience when I got lupus at 23. My mom helped me with everything – laundry, dishes, cooking, errands. She never asked for help and certainly never said a word. It can be hard to “delegate” during a strenuous time, so it was our friends and family who jumped in without asking that were our miracles.

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