Grief can be relentless, and loss overwhelming and isolating. You may never feel more alone than when you are grieving. But as powerless as you can feel, you may find strength in surrendering to what is versus what no longer is or will never be.
Honor Your Emotions
I suggest that you feel your grief. Sink into it. Honor your emotions. Just because you allow yourself to feel inconsolable doesn’t mean you will always be stuck in that bad place. Instead, being honest with yourself may allow you to become “unstuck” and move on.
If you have lost someone dear – a child, spouse, parent, relative, or close friend – it’s alright to allow yourself to mourn the loss of love, life, and experiences you will never have with them. If you, in turn, have an illness or medical condition that has compromised or forever changed your quality of life, mourn your lost abilities and opportunities.
Don’t Judge Your Grief or Rush It
Avoid chastising yourself with clichés like “I have to be strong and soldier on”, or “I must stay positive or I have to get on with my life.” Realize that others are—and have been—exactly where you are right now.
- You can’t rush the grieving process; it takes time and all of us recover in our own way and in our own time.
- Be patient and gentle with yourself.
- Honor your grief and know that eventually you will move through it.
As You Grieve Take Care of Yourself
Being outdoors, eating healthy food, and getting exercise and plenty of rest will go a long way. You may find that some friends and family shrink from your pain and may seem to abandon you when you need them most. Usually it’s because they don’t know what to do or how to help. Others instinctively know how to love and uplift you.
Hold on and sink in.
Tell Us How You Express Your Feelings
Loss is part of life. Everyone feels it, but all of us may process our feelings in unique and different ways. CaringBridge and our readers would like to hear your thoughts and experiences.